1. WHAT SHOULD I WRITE ABOUT? IS THERE ANYTHING I SHOULDN'T WRITE ABOUT?
Raise the Roof Academy children regularly think about and pray for their sponsors. You are investing in their lives, and they consider you family. Write as if you are. Letters should be mailed to Raise the Roof Academy, [Sponsored Child's Name], PO Box 92216, Nashville, TN 37209.
Be encouraging! And please be sensitive to the child's economic situation. Avoid discussing the material aspects of your life, and please do not include your address, phone number, or email.
- Describe your family (e.g., where they live, what they look like, their interests, type of work they do, pets, etc.).
- Include a small paper gift — photos, postcards, bookmarks, greeting cards, etc.
- Explain special holidays and family customs.
- Talk about important events — weddings, graduation, trips, new jobs, holidays, etc.
- Mark your calendar and send a card to celebrate a holiday or festival that is important to your child. (Christmas, Easter and New Year’s) or Birthday if known.
- Share your dreams and the daily activities of your life.
- Write about the terrain/climate/people where you live.
- Reminisce about your childhood.
- Discuss a person who influenced you.
- Talk about an important life lesson you learned, something you learned in school, or something you're learning now.
- Describe how you overcame a challenge or met a goal.
- Share your favorite Bible stories and verses.
- Remind your child that you pray for him or her regularly. Mention specific items your child has mentioned in his or her letters.
- Explain how your family includes your sponsored child in daily life (e.g., praying for him or her or displaying his or her photo in your home).
- Share your prayer requests and praise reports.
- Express what a privilege it is to be your child's sponsor.
- Affirm that God loves him or her and has a great plan for his or her life.
- Encourage your child to write back and/or draw pictures for you.
2. May I send my sponsored child a gift?
Yes! Gift a Gallon is a way to provide practical items for hygiene care, send love, and uplift Raise the Roof Academy students and other community children in Uganda during the RTRA Rhino Kid’s Summer Camp. You and your family can make a big difference in the life of a child with a small, gallon-sized gift.
- Choose to provide a Gallon Gift for your sponsored child or an unsponsored boy or girl.
- Go shopping! We encourage starting with the basics on the list, and then you can add in a fun gift if space allows.
- Fit everything into one, gallon-sized storage bag per child. It must be able to zip close.
- Personalize with a letter and photo. Let your child know who you are!
- Include a $7 check to RTRA for shipping and handling.
- Place check, card, and photo in an unsealed envelope in your bag.
- Fill out the info card. Detach and insert into your bag.
- Turn in your Gallon Gift before the deadline: 1) mail to RTRA, PO Box 92216, Nashville, TN 37209, or 2) bring to one of the collection sites listed on the mailed insert.
- Questions? Contact us at 615-686-9085 or email@example.com
Shopping List Basics:
- 1 Toothbrush with case
- 2 Travel-size toothpastes
- Dark colored socks
- 1 Washcloth
- 1 Bar of soap
- 1 Nail clipper
- 1 Pack of crayons
- 1 Small coloring book or notebook
- 1 T-shirt or dress
- 2 Pencils & sharpener
Ideas for fun extra items:
- Jump rope
- Toy car/truck
- Sports bra
- Solar calculator
- Flashlight with batteries
- Bracelet or necklace
- Hard plastic bottle
- Hard candies in separate small bag
Please do not include:
Used or damaged items, cash, war-related items (toy guns, knives or army men), chocolate, food, liquids, lotions, medications, vitamins, breakable items such as snow-globes or glass containers, aerosol cans, balloons, hair accessories or hair brushes.
Tips & Tricks:
- Remove extra packaging to save space.
- Children’s clothing sizes correspond closely to age.
- The kids love practical items, so please keep the toy and novelty items to a minimum.
You are always welcome to use the online Giving Catalog to pick out a gift for your sponsored child so that the item can be purchased locally. You may purchase online, or write a check with the specific gift in the memo line. Your name is "attached" to your sponsored child's name in our database, so we can properly track gifts, letters, and your monthly sponsorship. Please mail to Raise the Roof Academy, P.O. Box 92216, Nashville, TN 37209.
Gifts are purchased locally by our Raise the Roof Academy Uganda Team and given to your child. Your child will be told the gift is from you, and remember 100% of your donation goes to what you specify. If you do not specify, our Uganda Team will make sure that your child’s most urgent need is met first such as a sleeping kit, pair of shoes, or an outfit.
Fun Idea: Collect pictures of your family and make a small photo album for your child.
- Variety of family pictures
- Five to 10 pieces of construction paper or fun scrapbooking paper
- Glue or double-sided tape
- Two small pieces of string
Glue or tape a picture onto each page and indicate who is in the picture, what this person likes and dislikes, his or her hobbies, age, birth date and other fun facts. Continue with remaining pictures. Finish the album by stapling the paper together or tying the paper together with two small pieces of string to keep album intact.
3. WHAT TOPICS SHOULD I AVOID?
- Discussing the material aspects of your life (e.g., the size of your home or the kind of car you drive).
- Sending photos that show your possessions.
- Sharing your home address, e-mail address or telephone numbers.
- Using colloquialisms and slang.
- Suggesting your child come for a visit or that you'll send a particular gift.
4. HOW DO I CONVEY PERSONAL ISSUES LIKE DEATH AND DIVORCE TO MY SPONSORED CHILD?
Honesty and openness invite a child to a deeper, more personal relationship with you. Euphemisms, such as "passed away" in reference to a death, don't always convey the message you intend.
When discussing personal issues such as death and divorce, the best approach is to state the fact — "My mother died" or "Susan and I are getting divorced" — rather than explaining the details or using indirect expressions.
Because your child's perspective is different from yours, based on his or her culture, age and personal experiences, the child might not ask additional questions.
5. HOW DO I ASK PERSONAL OR SENSITIVE QUESTIONS, LIKE THOSE RELATED TO HEALTH, WITHOUT OFFENDING THE CHILD OR HIS OR HER FAMILY?
Personal issues require great sensitivity, particularly when communicating through letters and across cultures, and when the questions deal with health matters, which can often carry strong cultural stigmas.
Whether or not you should ask a particular question depends on your relationship with the child and the nature of the question. If you are uncertain, please consider delaying the question until you have built a stronger relationship with the child or have a better understanding of the culture.
Invite your child into a deeply personal relationship by modeling trust and honesty. Share with your child first. Allow him or her to see your courage and to take the first step.
Remember you are a mentor. Show your child you care by being patient, open, inviting and, most important, involved.
6. HOW DO I TELL MY CHILD THAT I CANNOT CONTINUE TO SPONSOR HIM OR HER?
Speak to your child honestly and clearly. It is not necessary to go into detail about why you cannot continue the sponsorship. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of the relationship. For example, you may consider talking about:
- what you enjoyed most about the relationship
- how you grew stronger in your faith or as a person
- what you learned from your child — about his or her country, culture or even about yourself
- how proud you are
- that you will continue praying for him or her
7. WHERE CAN I GET MORE INFORMATION ABOUT MY SPONSORED CHILD AND HIS OR HER CHILD DEVELOPMENT CENTER, COMMUNITY AND COUNTRY?
Visit raisetheroofacademy.org to learn more about your child’s community or write to firstname.lastname@example.org
8. CAN I WRITE DIRECTLY TO MY CHILD?
Our experience has shown that routing letters through the Raise the Roof Academy system is the most efficient way to handle correspondence.
- It allows us to secure the appropriate translation service you and your child need for effective communication.
- It allows us to obtain the quickest delivery method, which for children in remote or highly transient areas is hand-delivery.
- It allows us to protect your privacy.
- It allows us to protect the children.
9. HOW OFTEN SHOULD I WRITE?
You may write to your sponsored child as often as you like. We encourage you to write at least 3 times a year, even if it's just a brief note or card. Your sponsored child usually writes once per school term, so when you receive a letter from them, a great practice is to write them back immediately.
10. CAN I SEND PHOTOGRAPHS TO MY CHILD?
Certainly! We recommend you send a picture of yourself in the first letter and lots of pictures after that. You can send landscape photos, artistic pictures, pictures of your pets, the town you live in, your family and friends, etc.
Please avoid sending pictures that may accentuate the economic differences between you and your child (e.g., homes, cars, etc.). Be aware of what is in the photo's background.
If you happen to send a photo that our staff considers inappropriate, we will return it to you.
Please remember to include your sponsored child's name and your name on each item you send.
11. DO I HAVE TO SEND A PHOTOGRAPH TO MY SPONSORED CHILD?
No. But since photographs are not as common in the developing world as they are in the United States, they are particularly valued. A photograph of you, the caring person from another part of the world, adds another dimension to your relationship; it personalizes your correspondence and helps deepen the connection the child makes.
12. DO YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS FOR INCREASING THE CHANCE THAT MY QUESTIONS GET ANSWERED?
To help our teachers recognize that you expect an answer to the questions:
- Number your questions (1, 2, 3).
- Highlight the questions.
- Keep the questions brief and to the point.
13. WHY CAN'T I INCLUDE MY ADDRESS, E-MAIL ADDRESS OR PHONE NUMBER IN MY LETTER?
Your cooperation by not including this type of information within the letter allows us to protect your privacy.
14. I'M WRITING AS PART OF A GROUP. CAN GROUP MEMBERS TAKE TURNS WRITING LETTERS?
Your group can write the letter together, or can take turns writing, but it's best to have the same person consistently sign each letter. It's far less confusing for a child to talk with one person than to a group of people.
15. WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT FROM THE LETTERS I RECEIVE?
Please do not expect a pen-pal relationship. Your child is living and learning under circumstances much different from those in the United States.
Sometimes letters are written as part of a class exercise and may seem a little impersonal or formal. And cultural differences may cause your child's letters to seem excessively pious or grateful.
Your sponsorship is an opportunity to mentor your child. As your relationship slowly develops, your consistent presence fosters trust and tells your child "I care about you and want to be a part of your life." Your relationship should improve over time, as your child matures and learns to write more personal letters.
16. ARE MY LETTERS REALLY THAT IMPORTANT?
Yes. Your letters are life-changing! They matter as much as your financial generosity.
A child who understands his or her true value to God has taken the first step in overcoming poverty. And the easiest way for you to help your child take that step is to be involved in his or her life by writing letters.
As a sponsor you are in a position to model Christ's love. Your letters establish you as a significant person in your child's life. You are acting as a mentor.
Sponsored children treasure every letter they receive, and many children read their letters repeatedly, eagerly sharing them with visitors. Regardless of cultural and age differences, everyone grows stronger with consistent messages of love and support.
Plus, letters are an important part of your child's development. Exchanging letters improves your child's basic literacy skills and his or her self-awareness and ability to put thoughts and feelings into words. And keep in mind that topics you consider uninteresting, or that you feel you've discussed before, are viewed differently by a child in the developing world.
Every day poverty tells children, "You don't matter." But that is a lie, and your letters demonstrate that. They say, "You do matter, Betty." "I care about you, Denis." "Jesus loves you, Winnifred."
17. HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE FOR MY CHILD TO RECEIVE MY LETTER?
Correspondence between you and your child is not "overnight mail," but it is efficient — given the remote areas many of the children live in. Delivery may take a few weeks, but we are committed to a quick turn-around time.
18. WHY DO MY CHILD'S LETTERS SEEM IMPERSONAL?
Communicating between cultures is difficult. And this is especially true with written communication. It becomes even more apparent when the written communication is between an adult and a child in different cultures.
Many children in developing countries can't imagine that anyone would be interested in the details of their lives (e.g., how tall they are or how much they weigh). They may not think the sponsor really wants to know, or it may be considered vain to discuss personal things.
A child may be reluctant to open up because sharing is emotionally risky or the child may fear a cultural stigma or repercussions. However, children are encouraged to discuss their faith and to share what is happening in their lives and the lives of their families.
Developing trust in a relationship is difficult enough without having to cross cultural, geographic and age boundaries. Your consistent letters and your messages of love and support are invaluable and immeasurable. Your words of encouragement give inspiration and hope to a soul living with despair and rejection. As a mentor, your letters plant seeds that will bear fruit in your child's life and in the lives of your child's family and friends.
19. WHY DOESN'T MY CHILD ANSWER MY QUESTIONS?
Many children in the developing world don't immediately grasp the concept of "conversations" by mail and must be trained to develop the skill. Your love, understanding and encouragement should help you see progress over time as the child's writing skills mature.
Often, when a child receives a letter from his sponsor, he takes it home to show his family and then saves it in a "special place." The staff schedule a time for children to write letters to their sponsors and the children may not have the last letters with them and may not be able to remember the questions that were asked.
Sometimes a teacher will sit down with a younger child and write on the child's behalf. Questions can sometimes be overlooked or forgotten because of this.
20. WHY IS SOMEONE ELSE WRITING FOR MY CHILD?
A teacher usually writes on behalf of younger children as they are beginning to learn to write.
21. WHY IS MY CHILD'S NAME SPELLED IN DIFFERENT WAYS?
When children are registered, they are often too young to spell their own names. A guardian, who is often illiterate, will spell the name for the child, as best as they can. In time, the spelling may be determined to be incorrect because a family member learned how to spell it correctly or the child's birth certificate has been found (if there is one).
Additionally, in many cultures there is more than one correct way to spell a name; therefore, a child's case study may give different spellings each time it is processed.
22. WHY WAS MY LETTER NOT DELIVERED?
We reserve the right to decline to forward any letters and materials that we view as incompatible with our approach or might be considered inappropriate in the child's culture.
- threaten the safety of the child in any way
- depict or describe the use of alcoholic beverages, tobacco products, unlawful drugs or materials or activities that we regard as dangerous
- depict persons dressed in immodest clothing
23. WHAT IF I HAVE OTHER QUESTIONS?
If you have additional questions about writing to your child, please contact us at 615-686-9085 or email at email@example.com